Use This Age-Old Secret To Attract Genuine Love
How To Get All The Love And Friends You Want Without Fear Of Rejection
Section 5
(The following is another section from “Asking And Getting What You Want … positive prayer secrets” booklet by Thomas L. Hall)
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Are you lonely?
God does not expect us to live alone. It is natural for us to love and to feel a strong need to be loved in return. Loneliness is a worldwide affliction that can lead to severe depression and mental illness.
The fact is, it is easier to be lonely in today’s world than to have companionship because people do not need people as much today as they did fifty years ago. When America was a nation of farmers people were more dependent on their neighbors for help in times of trouble.
Most people live in towns today. In larger cities, people seldom take time to know their neighbors, especially when they live in apartment houses. In time of trouble, a call to the police, fire department or hospital can bring help. If extra labor is needed, a call to the part-time help employment agencies brings help.
When I was a small boy living in west Texas I remember people never locked the doors of their houses. In fact, we did not knock before entering a neighbor’s house. Just called out a loud “Hello” and walked on in. That was the custom.
We never passed another person, walking or driving, without waving a greeting. All of us were bound together because we had a need for each other.
In times of trouble, we knew our neighbors would come to our aid just as we would do for them. Trust was complete. A person’s word was his bond. A debt was a matter of honor to be repaid above all other considerations. Obligations for past favors were serious matters, and we looked forward to helping to even the books.
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Changing times
I do not have to tell you how things have changed from those earlier times. In today’s world, it is necessary to lock our doors with more than one lock in many cities. It is best not to talk to strangers. Do not speak to someone you do not know. If a person is walking down a hot, dusty road and you are riding in your car, do not give the person a ride is the advice we hear.
In those bygone days, we had to entertain each other. We got together for what we called ‘socials’. Usually, food, singing, dancing and each person would have a specialty for entertaining the group. Maybe sing solo. Or recite a poem. Do tricks. Play an instrument. We looked to each other for entertainment. When movies arrived, we would go to the show together.
In today’s world, a person can sit alone in his home and watch movies on a VTR or television. Young people today walk around with earphones attached while they listen to battery powered tapes strapped to their waists. There is less need to speak. Conversation is a lost talent. Books are not often read by the younger visual generation.
“God does not expect us to live alone. It is natural for us to love…”
Technology is pushing mankind into a more solitary way of life. While we applaud each new popular product and often rush to buy the new gadget, we pay more than the cost in lost human contact.
You cannot kiss and hug a television set. Or if you do you may get the shock of your life that could prove fatal. Loneliness is worldwide, not only in America.
Japan has become so automated that some stores sell life-size rubber dolls with real hair. These dolls actually talk to tell the owner, “I love you”. How much better it would be to have another human being put their arms around you and say those same cherished words.
If you feel a need in your life for more friends, for a closer relationship on an intimate level, what can you do about it?
Let me answer that question with another question. What is the difference between needing a financial blessing and needing love?
There is no difference: both are needs.
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Doing something
Thing? Didn’t your best friend, God, promise you anything you need if you believe? Since all things come from God because He created all that exists, doesn’t it make sense to know He will send you all the friends and intimate relationships you want IF you will only get down on your knees, bow your head, clasp your hands and ask in prayer?
God is more interested in answering your prayer for love than you might expect. The message we have above all others from Jesus is that we are to love one another.
After all, didn’t Jesus tell us in Chapter 15 of St. John, ‘This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.’ Then Jesus went on to give us one of the most beautiful passages in all the Bible when he said, ‘Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends’. You can plainly see the value placed on love and friends by Jesus.
If you have a need for more love in your life, you can bet God is anxious to supply this need – all you have to do is ask in prayer.
Love and be loved
So to love and to be loved is essential if you are to lead a full and happy life.
Psychiatrists tell us mental patients often become better when they have a dog or cat or another type of pet to love. It is proven that love heals the mind and body. Love is as essential as the food you eat. Without love, you are not living, only existing.
The first step in bringing all the love you want into your life is to truly love God with all your heart. The second step is to ask God in a sincere one to one prayer to bring love into your life.
After you have asked, expect miracles to start happening in answer to your prayer as these miracles happened in my own life when I asked for friends.
It happened while I was in Japan. My family was in Texas because it was necessary for the children to attend schools in America. It was necessary for me to spend time during the day helping a friend in his growing business. Evenings and weekends were not as satisfying as I wanted because I did not want to spend my time in bars.
I took my need to God in prayer. After I asked for friends who needed me, God answered that my prayer would be granted. In fact, I got the feeling from God’s reply that He was pleased with my prayer.
Nothing happened for a few days. Then my life changed even though at the time things began to change, I was unaware my prayers were being answered.
One day I walked out of the post office in Tokyo and stopped on the sidewalk. I did not understand why I stood there. I felt as if I were trying to make up my mind about where to go even though I knew I was on my way to my house. As I stood there thinking, a young man came up and introduced himself. This often happens to English speaking foreigners in Japan so I did not think it important.
The young man told me he was a student at a large engineering university which was across the street from the Shinjuku post office. He asked me to go with him to a nearby coffee shop for a talk. I knew students were always eager to practice their English so I agreed since I had free time.
During our talk, he told me he was a member of his school’s English Speaking Society. He explained the ESS society was soon to have their annual English speaking contest and they needed a native speaker to assist three Japanese judges in selecting the winners of the contest. He asked if I would attend the contest and help with the judging. The contest was scheduled for a Sunday afternoon when I was not busy so I agreed.
I attended the contest and helped with the judging. After the judging and the prizes were awarded, I was surprised when the ESSS president announced the native speaker (me) would now make a speech!
This was the first time anyone told me I was expected to make a speech. I was on the spot. I did the fastest prayer of my life as I quickly asked God to put the words in my mouth because I did not know what to say.
I told the audience I considered it an honor to be asked to judge. If I could help that ESS again or the ESS at any university, all they had to do was ask. The words were no sooner out of my mouth than I wanted to ask God. “What are you doing to me?” At that moment I knew God was going to answer my prayer for friends in another of his abundant ways.
And I was right. ESS members from other universities.
As soon as they heard my blanket offer to serve as a contest judge when needed, they cornered me after my speech to get my phone number. And then the calls started coming.
In a few weeks, most of my Sundays were taken up with judging ESS contests. There are several hundred universities in Honshu where Tokyo is located. Most every one of them has an active ESS. Every ESS has an annual contest where judges are needed.
Other judges I was soon to meet were officers from various embassies, priests, missionaries, and professors. Making friends with these people was so easy so I soon had more appointments and invitations than I did time.
After I had judged about a dozen of these ESS contest. I began to notice a similar pattern to the winning speeches. I obtained copies of winning speeches from previous years and sure enough, all the speeches that won first prize conformed to a pattern.
Without going into detail here, the pattern was the winning speech dealt with an event from the speaker’s life that taught the speaker a lesson for living. No speeches ever won that had as the theme a current event that did not relate directly to the speaker in a personal way.
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Winning ingredients
At the next contest, I told the audience I knew the ingredients of a winning speech. I offered to edit, not to write, speeches for students who were to enter an ESS contest If they would call my house and make an appointment. As soon as I said these words I knew God was at work again using me to do something for Him.
Of course, I did all this ESS work as public service. I charged no fee. When offered expense money, I would donate it to the ESS treasury of the school where I was judging that day.
I soon learned many students were having English vocabulary problems so I met with the heads of the English departments of about six universities and we compiled a list of the 2,000 most often used words in the English language. I spent nights making model sentences for each word.
When this chore was completed, I turned the material over to a publishing company who printed this in a book that sold by the thousands. I insisted the price of the book be kept low so as many students as possible could have a copy. In order to do this, I had to agree that I would not get any payment which was O.K. with me because I knew I was planting seeds.
As God wanted me to do.
When the book came out I was approached by a company that sold learning aids to students. They wanted to put the book on cassette tapes and asked me to do the narration. I told them I had no acting, speech nor announcer training. I thought many others were far more qualified than I was. They did not agree. So I did the narration in their sound studios. This took many visits to the studio before we were finished.
Once the tapes were ready to be marketed, the company asked if they could use my photograph in their ads. I did not think I was the role model type. Again they said it didn’t make any difference so I agreed if they would keep the selling price low enough for all students to afford the tapes. They agreed and I donated my services. Again planting seeds for God.
This tape package was so successful that the company began advertising the tapes on television twice a day. Early in the morning before students went to school and at night when students would be at home. My picture was on television in the T.V. ads for more than a year.
This increased the number of people who knew my name and certainly resulted in a flood of invitations to judge ESS contest not only in the Tokyo area but in other parts of Japan.
The number of students who wanted me to edit their ESS speeches was so great I had to invite small groups to meet with me because there was no time to meet with them on an individual basis.
A group of investors came to me and offered to put up a fortune if I would head an English speaking language school in Tokyo. The financial remuneration they offered was staggering even though I was used to dealing in large sums after so many financial blessings from God in answer to my prayers.
I declined their offer because they were exploiting the hunger the students felt to learn English. I was pleased to donate my services where I felt God lead me because I was pleased the students wanted to learn English and learn about America rather than studying Russian.
After I’d worked with the students for about two years, I began to see they often had difficulty studying. This was especially true at exam time. It saddened me when I would read about student suicides during examination ‘hell’ week as the students called that period. I wanted to help. I asked God to lead me in some way where I could advise students how to study. Especially in the study of English which was one subject many of them failed on their university entrance exams. I discussed this with a group of professors.
We outlined research material designed to help students get more out of their studies. Especially help in language studies using mnemonics which is a method of remembering by attaching the thing to be remembered to a pictorial aid in your mind.
Again a company wanted to publish this information. But they wanted to make the material into a correspondence course and charge almost a hundred dollars for it. I was outraged by this blatant attempt to exploit students who might actually commit suicide if they failed their exams.
I found another company who would publish our work and charge only about five dollars for the book, not almost one hundred dollars. Again I was asked to give up any payment which I gladly did.
But the president of the publishing company insisted the name of the author of the book be his name. He said he thought such a book would give him personal prestige. I thought this was funny but quickly agreed if he would not try to gouge the students on price.
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Another victory
The book was a huge success. God had lead me to another victory in answer to my prayer to help students. The first information about the book appeared in the Japanese edition of Reader’s Digest and brought a response of thousands from students all over Japan asking for more information about the book.
A year after publication the president had a file full of hundreds of letters from students telling how the book helped them to pass exams. Some girls promised to name their babies after the president so deep was their appreciation. The president of the company loved to brag about his book.
One day he called me in a panic. A television host had invited him to appear on a show telling how he wrote the book and about how it helped students. He asked me to come to his office at once and advise him how to answer the questions he might be asked.
I told him to relax and answer the best he could. “But I’ve NEVER read the book!” He told me. When I told him to read it, he said he never had time to read books even though he was in the publishing business.
So, I went to his office and patiently went through the book with him explaining the contents of each chapter. After I finished, he glowed with pride and said now he understood why his book was so successful. It was really wonderful he said.
Here this man had been taking bows for a year because of huge book sales and he had never even read the book with his own name on the cover as the author. I loved him for being such a fraud. And I believe God got a chuckle out of it too.
Token of appreciation
One day I had a call from a man in the Japanese government who asked to meet with me. I agreed, but when we met the person from the government was a woman, who told me my work with students in ESS and the books were known to the government. As a token of appreciation and for judging major ESS contests, especially those sponsored by a member of the Imperial family, I was to be awarded the Prince Takamatsu medal for public services.
I told her I was honored by the gesture. But I originally started to do the work because I had free time and wanted to do something useful. I explained my life had indeed been full since that first day I hesitated outside the post office when I was approached by the engineering student. That was full payment and recognition enough.
Furthermore, I told her I knew for a fact there were people far more dedicated and whose work was vastly more important than mine in Japan. I suggested they give the medal to someone else. I refused it.
I wanted to tell her I did this work because God answered my prayer because I was lonely. To accept a medal as if I had made some sacrifice would be a lie and an affront to my best friend, God.
But I said none of these things. While I was always proud of my relationship with God, I was embarrassed to say anything about it. I know now I was wrong but in those days I thought I was doing the right thing.
The woman called again to say a selected group of us were slated to receive the Prince Takamatsu medal at a ceremony at the Imperial Hotel hosted and attended by members of the Imperial family.
She went on to say that if I refused my medal it not only would be the first time in history such a medal had been refused but it would be humiliating for all concerned since the government’s reason for giving the medal was to express appreciation.
I told her I did not want to cause a scandal, and I did not want to insult anyone.
She told me the ceremony was formal. I would be expected to wear a tuxedo. That did it. I told her I did not own a tux. I had never owned one. And I did not intend to ever own one.
I suggested a compromise. I would accept the medal. But I would not attend any pompous ceremony. As an excuse, I would absent myself from Japan with a trip to Hong Kong at the time of the ceremony. She could accept the medal for me. She was overjoyed and agreed. That’s how we settled the matter of the medal.
By this time the cassettes I had recorded for the company selling learning aids had sold by the hundreds of thousands. It gave me a wonderful feeling of accomplishment to know every night thousands of students in Japan were studying English conversation by hearing my voice on the cassettes.
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Pearl Harbor revenged
When this subject came up, a British friend of mine would say my voice on those cassettes was a CIA plot to get even with Japan for Pearl Harbor by teaching Japanese students to speak English with a Texas accent.
One Sunday he went with me when I had to judge an ESS contest. There were about one hundred students present. In my opening speech, I told them I could help them speak English. If they spoke English like me they would sound like John Wayne or Lyndon Johnson. If they got a British teacher, they would speak English like Churchill.
I asked them to raise their hands and let me know which role model they preferred. About six of them wanted the British accent. More than ninety voted for the American accent even if they would sound like John Wayne or Lyndon Johnson. This shut my British friend up. He never told the CIA story again for fear I would tell about the vote.
When you read about how God answered my prayer for friends, it is easy for you to think what happened to me could never happen to you. You might think I was in a certain place at a certain time so it was easy to have my prayer answered.
Negative thoughts like those will guarantee you will not get your prayer answered. When you ask God to send you friends, you must believe with all your heart God will do as you ask. After all. He has promised you anything if you believe.
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Most painful emotion
Do you know the single most feared human emotion of all? Psychologists tell us it is rejection. People are so afraid of rejection they will go to any lengths to avoid the pain of rejection. Knowing how painful it is not to be liked, they will not go to parties. If they do go, they often stand in a corner and do not speak to others because they are afraid no one will talk to them.
Some people are so afraid of rejection, yet so lonely they actually advertise in newspapers for friends or lovers. How tragic they do not realize God loves them.
And God loves each of us equally – none more than others.
Since we are loved equally, what is there to prevent us from speaking to our brothers and sisters in the human family? Only our unreasonable fear of rejection.
What do you think the reaction would be if you went up to one hundred people on the street whom you had never met and asked if you could help them in any way? How many do you think would get angry? I can tell you from my own experience.
Tokyo can be a baffling place to first-time visitors. Street names are in Kanji which cannot be read by English speakers. When I would be in the Ginza which is the center of downtown Tokyo, I would often see foreigners with a puzzled look on their faces. More than a hundred times over the years I went up and offered to help. Not once did anyone resent my offer.
“… she confessed she was hopelessly lost.”
Once on a subway, I saw a very attractive young lady puzzling over a Tokyo city map. When asked if I could help, she confessed she was hopelessly lost. It was a simple matter to tell her how to transfer to another subway that would take her to the right station.
I commented on her well-modulated voice and asked if she had done any recording work. She said she did mayor in speech and was in several college plays. She said she would like to find some type of work in that line in Tokyo.
I gave her my card and arranged for an appointment for her with the president of the company who was recording the cassettes of the 2,000 most often used English words. He liked her voice. She tested out well and he suggested she record with me, taking the female role in the speech patterns.
Your reward
We worked very well together. Later the president told me those cassettes won an industry award for excellence in the teaching field. This made me very proud. And this should again prove to you the value of planting seeds when the time of the planting you only want to help someone. Let God take care of the matter of your reward which I can assure you will be bountiful – every time.
In closing this section let me make an important point. In planting seeds it is important your motive for planting be clearly. When you have a chance to plant seeds in the garden of human contact, you must do so with only the motivation and reward of actually helping someone.
Your satisfaction should be in gratitude to God for giving you the opportunity to help another thereby expressing your love for God. This sharing on your part is for the joy of sharing and makes God grateful. His gratitude is expressed to you in ways you cannot imagine.
If you share with an ulterior motive of gain in your mind, you are not sharing – you are scheming. If you give your friend a present because you plan later to ask your friend to borrow his car, you are not sharing, you are scheming. I am not saying there is anything wrong with scheming. It goes on every day all over the world. What I am saying is the rewards from scheming are limited at best.
The unlimited rewards from sharing by planting seeds as God asks us to do gives you rewards beyond your ability to imagine.
Answering your prayers to give you friends and love are easy for God to do. In fact, no prayer request is difficult for God. Getting and giving you love is the easiest prayer you can call on Him to answer. He loves you for asking.
Now for the conclusion of this section and the Positive Love Prayer.
God does not expect us to live alone. It is healthy for you to touch and be touched by someone who sincerely says, “I love you.”
Your first love must be for God. Then your love for other is infinitely stronger because you love God first.
All of us are God’s children. We are bound together by a need for each other. Kissing a T.V. is no fun and is not satisfying. People need people almost as much as they need God.
God responds quickly to your prayer for love because the Bible’s message that we should love one another is loud and clear. God is the greatest lover of all, therefore, He understands the need for you to love.
God’s help is fast in emergencies. Even when you have to make an unexpected speech, God supplies the words He wants you to say.
When you do a tremendous fob of planting seeds, God rewards so abundantly you may have to ask God to stop giving you so much.
Luck has nothing to do with your good fortune from the which all blessings come. Luck is a sometime thing. God is an all time thing.
Rejection is said to be the most painful of all emotions. God never rejects one of his children. Rejection is a groundless fear. It does not exist when you love others.
Know the difference between sharing by planting seeds and by scheming. Planting seeds give you unlimited blessings. Scheming gives you chancy and limited gains at best.
God’s love knows no limits. Nor does His rewards to you know limits when you believe and share. You are God’s child and God is love.
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Positive Love Prayer
(When using this prayer, you first decide if you want God to give you an intimate relationship or do you want close but more casual friends? Please tailor the prayer to your needs)
Intimate Prayer
Father, I am coming to You because I am so lonely. You tell us to love one another. I am certainly ready to do just that.
Of course, I love You completely. But the truth is, Father, I need someone to touch. Someone to touch me. And I need to hear someone say, “I love you”. I need to say this to another person.
As I go through the day, Father, help me to see the good in all people. Help me never to say a critical word about anybody. Let me never be guilty of fault finding gossip… not a word.
Let me project an aura of love so I will be attractive to all I meet. Most of all Father, send me a good person to love in a wholesome manner so both of our lives will be enriched.
Thank you, Father. Amen.
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Friendship Prayer
Father, I am lonely at this time in my life. Your love comforts me but I need good friends. I do not want to spend my time in bars and nightclubs.
Please help me find friends who are doing positive things with their lives. Lead me to them and make it possible for me to make some contribution to the group by sharing and planting seeds.
Father, I thank You for the lack in my life because this gives me the opportunity to come to You on my knees in deepest respect.
You want us to love one another so we can enjoy this wonderful world and express our love for You.
Father, you know I have the capacity for giving. Please lead me to those I can call friends.
I love you, Father. I am Your child who is asking You for a friendship blessing. Amen.
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